A Journey Through CRPS Together!!

I’m back for another exciting post even though I don’t have anything exciting to post about. I’m now about three weeks post surgery and slowly going mad doing nothing. It’s still at least two more weeks before I’ll be allowed to drive so I’m pretty much housebound at the moment. I have to be very careful at this stage in the game to not do something dumb that will cause the lead in my neck to shift. So for the time being I’m not doing much of anything but it’s not easy to do. It’s hard to watch your spouse running around doing a million things to try and keep the family running, but she does an incredible job!

This brings me to the purpose of my post for today. As a couple we try to split the work of raising a family down the middle, doing whatever it takes to get things done. Since being diagnosed with CRPS things have been more one sided with me doing what I can when I can. In the last couple of months with me going through all the surgeries and having to recover, all of the responsibilities have fallen on her shoulders. With everything that this family has had to go through over the last little while, she has had to be the one to hold this family together and keep it going.

This fight with my CRPS isn’t all about me. Although lots of times the focus of this illness falls on me, there is an amazing person who often doesn’t get the recognition she deserves for everything that she does. A person who gives every minute of every day doing whatever it takes to get things done. Often this will be done with sacrificing her own wants and needs putting the rest of the family first! I feel like the luckiest man alive because I get to be married to her, and take this journey through life with her. So in case you hadn’t already figured it out I’m talking about my wife!

The last couple of months have been every bit as hard on her as she’s had to do pretty much everything! CRPS affects her life in a lot of the same ways as it does mine. At times she needs to blow off steam just as much as I do, to try and deal with the extra stress it causes in her life. She had me laughing the other day because she was in the middle of her Wii workout doing a boxing exercise. All I could hear was “take this” take that” over and over. Later she told me that she was imagining herself beating up CRPS, and everything it has taken from our lives.

As a couple we fight this illness together, and we recognize what each of us has to deal with through all of it. When one of us needs to be encouraged then the other is there to do just that. I know this has been a long hard haul over the last several months and years for her, and I can’t begin to tell her how great full and appreciative I am for everything she does. There is no other woman like you! I Love You!

 

 

 

 

 

About Ross

My name is Ross and I want to welcome you to my site. I'm married to an amazing woman who is my best friend, and my soul mate all rolled up into one! I am the father of two very special girls who we adopted from China & Ethiopia. Together we make up one very multicultural family! In 2006 my life was turned upside down when I was diagnosed with CRPS/RSD. It was the start of a journey I never could have expected, and one that I couldn't fight without God. CRPS is a chronic pain disease and it started in my left hand. I lost mobility of my hand and started to experience pain unlike I ever could have imagined. Not to long after my left ankle became affected. I spent the better half of about a year not knowing what was going on in my body and traveling from doctor to doctor to find a diagnosis. As time went by I started learning more about CRPS and all its symptoms that it brings with it! As I started to learn more about CRPS I felt the growing need to share the information I was learning with others and to raise more awareness. As well I want this to be a place where we can connect and support one another. So I would encourage you to contact me if you want.
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6 Responses to A Journey Through CRPS Together!!

  1. Ross, you are so right. None of my ministry would be possible without my husband’s unending support – financial, logistical and emotional. Celebrating the unsung hero of my spouse with you!

  2. Amy says:

    What a sweet post Ross. God was so good to give us partners. It’s so nice to hear that your wife is such a great helpmate. What a blessed man you are!

  3. Lori says:

    Thanks for the reminder. I am 2 weeks out from my 2nd spinal cord implant surgery (not counting the trial). My husband has been there every step of the way. You see, my husband is a “fixer”, and he found this disease was something he could not “just fix”. He has supported me in all that I’ve been through. He reminds me when I get down, that things could be worse. He also reminds me to be strong – and realize that our lives are just in a different phase than they use to be. We can accept it – and go on – thanking God for what we DO have, or we can give up. We are choosing the first. We are going to accept our “new” life as it is… and look forward to what the future brings us. I am forever greatful for my wonderful husband!

  4. Lisa says:

    You are indeed very fortunate to have one so wonderful in your life!

  5. Liz says:

    This is such a lovely post. When a family walks through life with one who has an serious illness, it becomes a “family illness”. Our family has a few (my numerous illnesses & my daughters illness). It’s so hard on those who have to “take up the slack” or carry the burden of doing the usual day to day things. You are incredibly blessed to have such a supportive wife. I too am incredibly blessed to have the support of my husband of 2 years. The unsung heroes deserve some credit and praise and you are a good man for doing that.
    We have also discovered that some family cannot handle the battle (for whatever reason) which I believe is so sad but we soldier on regardless.
    Lovely post and thanks for the follow… I am now following you so I can keep up on your progress and gain more encouragement in my own battle with my chronic illness.

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